Every Couple Has a Story. My Job Is to Tell It.
One of the questions I am asked most often is, "How do you write a wedding ceremony?"
People imagine I sit down with a blank page and begin writing.
The truth is, I rarely begin with words.
I begin by listening.
Every couple has a story.
How you met.
The first impressions that turned out to be completely wrong.
The holidays you'll never forget.
The moments that made you laugh until you cried.
The difficult chapters that brought you even closer together.
None of those stories belong to me.
They belong to you.
My role is to listen carefully enough that, when your family and friends hear your ceremony, they recognise you in every sentence.
I am not trying to impress anyone with clever writing.
I am trying to capture your personalities.
The little quirks.
The shared jokes.
The memories that have shaped your relationship.
Because that is what people remember.
Weeks later, your guests probably won't remember every detail of the day. They'll remember how it felt to watch the two of you make your promises.
They remember laughing at a story only your closest friends knew.
They remember wiping away a tear when they heard what your relationship had overcome.
They remember thinking, "That was so them."
To me, that is the greatest compliment a celebrant can receive.
Not that the ceremony was beautiful.
But that it was unmistakably yours.
Every relationship deserves a story.
And every story deserves to be told with honesty, warmth and care.
